Disgusted by public breastfeeding!
For what seems like 6th time in four days I saw a woman on BART feeding her spawn with little attempt to cover up her bare breast. When I am out in public, I do not appreciate having to feel the uncomfort and embarassment of a topless woman putting on a show for the world to see.
I walked up to the woman and loudly asked her to please try to cover herself up, its bad enough she has no respect for herself, but she could at least try to respect he dignity of motherhood for her child.
Why do so many mothers think this type of behavior is okay?
It's natural. Get over it.
It's natural. Get over it.
dam what a cry baby....
dam what a cry baby.... probably was it was him getting the milk
I know perverts who would
I know perverts who would ejaculate on themselves on the train if they saw a breastfeeding woman squirt breastmilk on the seat next to her. I have seen this kind of accident on a bus in Texas once.
Actually, I am that pervert. I was only 16 when I saw a hispanic lady pull her shirt up past her mid chest level exposing both breasts. her 4-5 year old child was tugging at her shirt further exposing her breasts. I got aroused more than ever.
At one point, a VERY small stream of breastmilk squirted onto the seat next to her...I began rubbing myself through my pants until I ejaculated. I waited till she got off the bus and touched the stained seat with my fingers and smelled it.
It's not FAIR for me to see nudity like that. Especially a teenager. Even if breastfeeding were legal, she exposed herself waaaaaaaaaaay too much for my hormones to handle.
WHAT THE FUCK
WHAT THE FUCK
All you had to do was look
All you had to do was look away. You chose to masturbate, and you chose to stare. Learn how to exercise Personal Responsibility.
I AM AGAINST BRESTFEEDING ON
I AM AGAINST BRESTFEEDING ON THE BART! I dont' have jeolousy issues and I have a great relationship with my mom. So don't go there. The only person who made ANYYYYYY sense here was the guy that said, "breastfeeding in close quarters is inapprorpiate....but it sure beats hearing some baby hungry baby screaming the entire trip to work."
Also, that perverted guy who responded at the bottom is exactly what mothers should think about. I am mentally stable and healthy; however, I would no want to have some lady plopping out her breasts inches away from me.
And to the idiots that say, "it's natural so do it". Sex is natural, "I'm horny so I bang my wife on the BART" No you fool. Just because it's natural doesn't mean you do it in front of people.
What kind of crazy hippy mess are we talking about here. We are mammals that have evolved higher than monkeys. We still EAT, SLEEP, HAVE SEX, DEFICATE, AND BURP LOUDLY, but these things are just innapropriate in certain situations.
I don't feel uncomfortable with naked breasts. Not everyone has accepted this hippy crap. I don't! And yes, there are ladies out there who expose TOO much nipple, and TOO much breast. I dont' want my 12, 13 and 11 year old cousins looking at that.
THANKS......LOVE AND PEACE MAN!
obviously you ARE
obviously you ARE uncomfortable around naked breasts, otherwise, you wouldn't have taken 5 paragraphs to explain why breastfeeding in public is not OK. when it all comes down to it, breasts are not a sexual thing. yes, many people are aroused by the sight of breasts, but I feel alot of this is a result of the fact that our society does not condone female toplessness. (on a side note, when women sun bathe topless in europe, no one cares, including the 11, 12 and 13 year old cousins.) when you really stop to think about it there is little difference between the male and female chest. yes, most women have larger breasts than men, but not all.
that being said, i realize this is america, where female toplessness is highly frowned upon. i agree that breastfeeding mothers should try to be discrete, but it is difficult at times - remember that they are trying to get an infant to feed, which is not always the easiest of tasks (especially on a moving train) and might result in the occasional flash of skin.
my advice to you (or anyone) would be to mind your own business. you shouldn't be staring at anyone while on bart, especially a breastfeeding mother.
Would you rather sit on BART
Would you rather sit on BART and listening to a screaming, hungry baby? It's a shame people like you even exist, don't look if you don't want to see it. A mother has to feed her baby and in California, it is legal for a woman to breastfeed ANYWHERE!
Come on. Breastfeeding is
Come on. Breastfeeding is one of the most important and natural bonding and nurturing act between a mother and a child. Besides, when my kid breastfed, he had more of the nipple and breast in his mouth than some women show while clothed on in their tank-tops or at the beach.
Sure, it might be uncomfortable for you. If it is, look elsewhere.
I think you are scared of
I think you are scared of boobs. What type of relationship did you have with your mother?
OH MY GOD!! It's so fucking
OH MY GOD!! It's so fucking obvious that you weren't breastfed as a child! Does your mother even speak to you? If so, ask her what she did when you were crying for milk.
You are such an ignorrant fucking pig!! I'd venture to say that you are male and have lived your life sexualizing women and have only seen breasts as playtoys. They actually serve a purpose more important than anything your pea-brain could ever wrap itself around.
And HOW DARE YOU confront this woman! You act as though you have no control over yourself. You can divert your eyes or go to another train, for Christ's sake!
Have a nice day, asshole ;)
I'm not trying to add fuel
I'm not trying to add fuel to the fire but why not bottle breast milk and bring a bottle with you? Excuse my ignorance because I am a guy and do not know these things.
Pumping breast milk takes a
Pumping breast milk takes a lot of time and effort, and time is something that a lot of us mothers don't have a lot of. Why waste time pumping breastmilk for a baby that is coming with us?
I'm a nursing mother of a 6 month old (I've nursed 2 of his 3 older sibs too)... it takes me a good half hour to pump enough milk for a single feeding where it takes me half of that time to just nurse him. Breastpumps are noisy, inefficient and can be a pain in the ass to use and clean.
In addition to the things
In addition to the things already mentioned, breast pumps can cause severe pain on some women (my wife included). In addition cost can be prohibitive. The only pumps that are actually efficient cost over $300. While this may not seem like a lot, in addition to all of the other things that are needed for babies, that is a huge amount.
The last reason is simply that women shouldn't have to. As has been pointed out elsewhere, California law specifically states that women have a legal right to breastfeed babies in any public place.
Just one more thing about
Just one more thing about this uptight America, people like you who deny human need. Baby is hungry, feed Baby. Simple. Would you deny how Baby got here too?
i think you are just jealous
i think you are just jealous that you see that bare breast and you can't have any! And yes, when you were a baby, you were on Infamil.
You are a fucking bottle fed
You are a fucking bottle fed idiot!
wasn't everyone bottle fed
wasn't everyone bottle fed at one point or another, genius?
Um, NO. I have one daughter
Um, NO. I have one daughter that breastfed for four years and never had a bottle, and I am currently breastfeeding my six month old who has never had a bottle.
Why should I give my baby a bottle and cause nipple confusion just so some jackass can 'be less uncomfortable' simply because I choose to give my child the food that nature intended?
Grow up, dumbasses. Every single person in the world has boobs. I am faced with unsightly, hairy gross man boobs hung over top of big nasty beer bellies all the time in construction zones, but I just have to deal with it because it's legal for a man to walk around without a shirt--just as it is for a woman to breastfeed her baby. GET OVER IT.
first off, let me say that i
first off, let me say that i am totally in favor of breastfeeding. but you breast fed your daughter for FOUR YEARS??? once the kid can ask for it by name, it's probably a good idea to switch to juice.
Four years? Damn, sista! I
Four years? Damn, sista! I breastfed my kids for until they were old enough for Gerber, then enough is enough. When we would travel, yep, you guessed it, I bottled it.
As a police officer, we are legally unable to prevent people from breastfeeding in public. But that doesn't change the fact that some people might be offended by it. If someone is offended to the point of needing to move, why not wait ten minutes until you are in private?
As for "nipple confusion," that's a load of crap. I don't know about you, but at four months, my baby girl could barely stay awake for an hour, let alone worry about getting confused over nipples. That sounds to me like an excuse to breastfeed in public.
I agree that it is a bonding activity. But it is one that should be sacred, between you and your little miracle. Not you, your little miracle, and the 5 o'clock rush on the Bay Point train.
I so agree with this post!!
I so agree with this post!! I don't like seeing that on BART especially with all the perverts that ride it as well. It is just going to fuel some pervert's weirdness. PLEASE, NURSE YOUR CHILD IN PRIVATE, NOT ON BART!!!!
Nipple confusion is not a
Nipple confusion is not a "load of crap" Obviously you are uninformed or just plain ignorant. Here:
NIPPLE CONFUSION
There are some basic mechanical differences between how a baby gets milk from a bottle and how a baby gets milk out of the breast. Giving bottles or pacifiers to young, breastfeeding babies often leads to nipple confusion. Baby tries to use the bottle-feeding technique on the breast and has difficulty latching-on and sucking. Baby gets very frustrated, and so does mother. Nipple confusion can even lead to baby refusing the breast. Here's an explanation.
To get milk from the breast, baby must coordinate tongue and jaw movements in a sucking motion that's unique to breastfeeding.
* When baby latches onto the breast, he opens his mouth wide and draws the very stretchable nipple and areolar tissue far back into his mouth.
* The tongue holds the breast tissue against the roof of baby's mouth while forming a trough beneath the nipple and areola.
* The gums compress the milk sinuses underneath the areola (the pigmented area around the nipple) while the tongue rhythmically "milks" the breast with a wave-like motion from front to back, drawing the milk from the areola and the nipple.
* Since the nipple is far back in baby's mouth, it's not compressed by the gums, so it's less likely to get sore.
Babies suck from a bottle entirely differently. Thanks to gravity, milk flows from a bottle so easily that baby does not have to suck "correctly" to get milk.
* He doesn't have to open his mouth as wide or correctly turn out the lips to form a tight seal.
* The bottle nipple does not need to be far back into the mouth, nor is the milking action of the tongue necessary.
* Baby can lazily gum the nubbin of the rubber and suck with only his lips.
* When the milk comes out too fast, baby may thrust his tongue forward and upward, to stop the flow from the nipple.
* Milk keeps on coming during feedings from bottles--whether or not baby sucks--so there are no pauses to rest during bottle-feedings.
Problems occur when babies apply the lessons learned from bottle-feeding to nursing at the breast. When you compare the illustration of sucking at an artificial nipple with the illustration of sucking at the breast, you will see that if baby sucks from the breast the same way he does the bottle, the tongue and the gums will traumatize mother's nipple.
* Babies who get bottles soon after birth may thrust their tongue upward during sucking and push the breast nipple out of their mouth.
* They don't open their mouths wide enough when latching-on, so they suck only the tip of the nipple. They don't get enough milk, and mother's nipples get sore.
* Baby becomes accustomed to the immediate flow of milk that comes from the bottle; at the breast, babies have to suck for a minute or two to stimulate mother's milk ejection reflex and get the milk flowing.
Does this mean that bottle-feeding is easier than breastfeeding? Yes, and no. Bottles require less sucking finesse and less effort. However, studies comparing premature infants during bottle-feedings and during breastfeedings have shown that breastfeeding is actually less stressful.
* Babies' breathing and heart rate are more stable during feedings at the breast.
* Babies have more control over the milk flow and can establish a more regular rhythm of sucking, swallowing, and pausing.
* Feeding at the breast also requires less energy.
You do know that the posts
You do know that the posts you are responding to are over a year old, don't you?
Probably because it *is* ok.
Probably because it *is* ok. It's a natural and beautiful thing. Get over it.
In close quarters some
In close quarters some things are more inappropriate than if the train is half empty, while breastfeeding may be awkward and I wouldn't do it, it's a hell of a lot better then the idiots who let their kids scream for the ENTIRE f**king trip. Yes, this is a sore subject.
Heres the perfect solution,
Heres the perfect solution, The next time you encounter a mom breast feeding in public, take out your camera phone and take a few pictures. Then post it on the web so the whole world could see. Maybe that may influence her to be more discrete when breastfeeding in public.
You are incredibly rude.
You are incredibly rude. What an @sshat! If you didn't want to look, your repressed self should have just averted your eyes instead of making a scene and making yourself seem like some kind of mouth breathing cousin humper.
It is a law in California that a nursing mother has the right to breastfeed her child in any public place. It doesn't matter how much skin is showing.
Lol, Breastfeedings.. This
Lol, Breastfeedings..
This just happend the other day some woman was breastfeeding her kid out in the open, which is perfectly natural, no complaints... Then she got mad because I was watching. I told her it was perfectly natural for me to look and that she can't have it both ways and get over it. She walked off in a huff..
you should see a therapist
you should see a therapist for your repressed anti-motherhood feelings...
Wow...you must be living in
Wow...you must be living in a time warp! Here's some news: It's not 1957 any longer.
Why do boobs suddenly
Why do boobs suddenly appear, anytime I come near?
E. Roger Causwell
probably because you're a
probably because you're a boob.
Natural my foot! We don't
Natural my foot! We don't go around having sex in public like animals!
As a pervert, I enjoy women who breastfeed in public. I get aroused seeing thier nakedness and boldness to expose thier body to.....me....a complete stranger who was molested repeatedly over the course of 3 years.
+Now, seeing that I was force, at age 4,5 and 6 to penetrate my babysitter with my tiny forearm until she ejaculated fluid (YES THIS GRAPHIC DESCRIPTION IS ACTUALLY MY LIFE)....I think it would be unwise for a dumb, bed of roses life having, carefree woman that has never seen the armpit of what life can be......can just plop down next to ME on the bus and pull her naked breasts out in public. That's like waving a juicy steak in front of a starving PIT BULL. IN THE PAST, I HAVE STARTED RUBBING MYSELF THROUGH MY TROUSERS, as her baby suckles. It felt great. The other time I actually reached orgasm and had to clean my pants when I got home.
Keep being stupid by exposing yourselves to twisted guys like me. Next thing you know liberals are going to fight for the right to have intercourse in public like animals.
sorry if this is too blunt but this is MY LIFE. I lived it.
Oh and BTW, dismiss my
Oh and BTW, dismiss my comments if you like, but it's unfair for me to be forced to see nude breasts in public...at the mall....on the bus....in the lobby....at the restaurant. I dont' want to be eating my food and looking at nakedness. I wouldn't expect a woman to want to look at a guys chestas she ate her steak at Red Lobster either.
NOTE: If I ever saw an accidental squirt of breastmilk on the bus, I would lick it up. Yall bra burning females need a man with a backbone to tell your out of control hearts to shut up and obey non-nudity laws!
I was molested as a child
I was molested as a child too. It's no excuse to masturbate in public. If I ran into someone like you, rubbing one out in public, I'd be on my cell phone dialing 911.
When I nurse in public, I do it as discreetly as possible... those teenaged girls in low cut shirts show more flesh than I do.
OKay, this is that pervert
OKay, this is that pervert again!!!
What IDIOTS who breastfeed in public don't realize is that not ALL women do it discretely. She let me see it all. Both of them. I was too young to process all of that.
Maybe..........just maybe, if she would have done it discretely like you Miss Goodie 2 shoes, then my first time ever experiencing the Seriously Unexpected sight of a breastfeeding mother would not have been so traumatic.
Rubbing one out......LOL!
Is there a way that this Web
Is there a way that this Web Site's Manager or Assistant Manager can ban this person from here?
wHY SHOULD OTHER KIDS ON THE
wHY SHOULD OTHER KIDS ON THE TRAIN SEE THAT CRAP TOO? It is indecent exposure.
Next time you see a
Next time you see a breastfeeding women ask her if you can
suck on her breast too.
Many people believe it is
Many people believe it is wrong for a woman to bare her face in public. They insist she wear a chador, burkah, or hijab for modesty. Will you insist on this also? You are trapped in a cultural viewpoint that is wholly dependent on the year and city in which you were born. When I was born, all American citizens of color had to defer to all American citizens with pale skin, giving them their seats, not eating in front of them, not eating in public restaurants nor drinking from public fountains. My generation learned how wrong and disrespectful it was to single out certain segments of our population for shunning, and to deny them the right to eat and drink when it was necessary or desired. You can learn this, too, if you open your heart to compassion and learn to respect all other human beings.
it is inappropriate to
it is inappropriate to breast feed on BART or any public place and if these stupid mothers don't have time, quit breeding.
Why did you post anonymously?
Why did you post anonymously? What are you afraid of? It is not inappropriate, it is a mother's LEGAL RIGHT to breastfeed wherever and whenever she needs or wants to.